There is a lot of talk going around about truth vs. feelings. There is this continuing phrase that is being used quite a bit — “my truth”. I have heard it many times in the last couple of years in one form or another, but no matter how someone says it, it means the same thing. That people make their own truth based on their ideas, feelings, geographical location, political orientation and so on and so forth. I think people have forgotten what truth really is, the truth is not some moving target that we are always trying to hit. Truth is static, it doesn’t move depending on who is talking or who is making a point. Truth is, in my opinion, a force of nature much like gravity.
There is no escaping truth, ultimately truth triumphs. It may take a while sometimes, but in the end, the truth is always an immovable thing. I think there are too many people who think that truth is just something you have to convince the ruling power of and if they are on your side, then that is the truth. Well, that ain’t exactly how it works… lol. For example, if someone feels that electricity will not harm them, and someone hands them a butter knife and they stick it in an electrical outlet, they will, no matter how they feel or what they believe, be shocked. Because the truth is, electricity will hurt you whether you believe it or not. Does that mean that feelings are invalid? Of course not, but we cannot replace truth with feelings. Truth, as I stated earlier, is static. It doesn’t change, but feelings can change day to day. I can feel down and depressed one day and make decisions based on those feelings and the next day be upbeat and happy and realize the decisions I make the day before were foolish and unwise. Feelings play a vital role for us day to day. They should not, however, be the rudder that steers our lives. I think Churchill said it best, “The truth is incontrovertible. Malice may attack it and ignorance may deride it, but in the end, there it is”.
Like most Americans, I work a full-time job 5 days a week, 8+ hours a day. I get up at 6 AM every morning to go to work. I hate waking up to an alarm clock every day, in fact, every day when I wake up I don’t feel like getting up. I feel like going back to sleep and waking up organically with birds chirping and rays of sunshine breaking through my bedroom window while a group of highly intelligent mice cooks bacon and eggs for me. I could do that every day (well minus the mice I guess), but eventually the truth of the situation would come crashing back into my life. Rent is due, electricity is turned off, etc, etc… We can’t simply operate on how we feel all the time, feelings are valid and an important part of our life, but we can’t rely on our changing feelings every day to get us through life. Just because I feel a certain way does not mean I am right.
I have valid feelings yes, but it doesn’t mean I am right. There have been times in my life where my feelings were hurt because of something someone had said about me or my family. My feelings at the time were hurt, anger, betrayal and maybe even a little revenge sprinkled into the mix. Then when I confronted the person or persons about the offense, the situation was not what I thought it was. I was wrong about the feelings I was having because it was a misunderstanding. The feelings were valid, but the truth of the situation was those feelings were completely unwarranted. We cannot as a people start trading what the truth is for the lie of our feelings because eventually, the truth will catch up to us. Or in this case, possibly our kids.
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